How can a man walk away from his children, but yet say he loves them? How can they miss every Holiday? It's crazy. They start out being a great father. Well they seem that way at first. They don't have any contact with their children but yet they offer advice to other parents. My children's sperm donor doesn't know a thing about the children. He has no clue what they like, what they are in to, and how their personalities are. My husband is adopting them this year. I am overly joyed that we will be a complete family and that the children do not have to bother with sperm donor's name any longer. Personally I am glad to see that last name go. It has nothing but pain and suffering attached to it.
Now I have heard excuses. He can't stand to be around me so he doesn't call them. He doesn't want to talk to me so it's easier to not be around them. I don't give a damn what it took. I hate him with a passion, but if these kids were there I would call and visit! It's being a parent. Just because you divorce the mother doesn't mean you divorce your kids. Good dad's don't do that! Good dad's don't say it was a dark time in their life. He thinks he is a great parent. He has never done anything wrong by these kids. The asshole can't see the big picture. Picking the new wife over your children isn't cool. Seriously, what kind of woman could sit there and encourage a man to not talk to his kids? Does she think she will be different? Then again she was raised that way. She thinks she is better then American women. Fuck he has cheated on her! I have heard that from his own family! He will never change. I am left with the baggage of scars and feelings. I have learned from the mistakes I made in that marriage. He will never change. He doesn't know the meaning of vows.
I had to vent since we hit a road block in the adoption. Kind of. Thanks to the lawyer and all the money we have shell out there is a loop hole. We are now just waiting to see if it applies.